The Crown Prince Couple's Choice of Patronages

[Winnie]

Originally Posted by bbb

Quote "she doesn't have to buy her groceries, wash, clean, do her garden, has never any worries about money, doesn't pay taxes, gets the very best healthcare there is and has nannies for her children"

i know alot of women that can say that(except the taxes, they don't pay their fair share) and some of them are the most miserable, sad people, because there's always something else they "want" and always "keeping up" with what others have.

Mary has no money worries but as a human being i'm sure she has worries about her childrens safety, her families health, support for her husband, her basic priorities, (i would imagine she is pulled in many directions at once constantly) and finding enough time in the day (every woman i know does) i've heard and read many times her compulsion to be prepared, to do her best,quest for information and details. Frederik was quoted she asks questions all time. personally i would find it "hard work" dressing up and meeting strangers everyday, much less having to stand up and speak in a second language. i envy the perts but i wouldn't want the strings attached, i think she's doing a great job and in no smart part, because she makes it look "easy" and comes prepared.

I certainly agree -- plus I certainly would not want a camera in my face whenever I leave the house!

Originally Posted by Jo of Palatine

Somehow I get the impression that this whole discussion derives from the fact that Mary appears to some people to be an overachiever who is very concentrated, determined and controlled in what she does in order to get it right. Most people don't like such persons, especially if they perceive the sucess of this person to be coming from chance rather than own effort - in this case through marriage.

While I understand this impression I tend to see the other side: Mary tries very hard to fit in and to be the "picture-perfect princess". Probably she herself thinks that she has been given a position she did not earn for herself but was given it through her connection with frederick. So she tries to make up for it. The fact that we don't see her so much out and about IMHO is based on the fact that she really prepares hard for every event, that she really tries to be perfect all the time and can only manage so much.

Yes, I think that Mary is an overachiever and I give her all the credit in the world for it. I believe the world would be a better place if more were like her.

Originally Posted by UserDane

So if Mary does not fit into the 'attractive flaws' mould, can her more reticent nature - which is by some seen as a flaw and as an attempt to always appear 'perfect' - not be raised to become an acceptable flaw then - or what should we do about her? Start a popular demand for her to slouch at selected public events, stuff her head with Danish pastry to achieve the requested increase, or practice the wide-tooth grin in front of the mirror before she leaves her house....

UserDane you are so funny -- stuffing with pastry, slouching and grinning like silly -- but I just bet that there are some that would say "lovely, now she is normal and not trying to be perfect!" Gee Whiz, what a world!

Originally Posted by Lilla

She should get a tattoo - right on top of her nose - a picture of Frederik perhaps

You people have be laughing out loud!