If he honors his father and accepts Camilla he is betraying Diana. If he honors Diana he is being dismissive of his father. I don't get it.
Because people are unnable to get past their own prejudice, Zonk.
They sit behind their computer screens eager and willing to judge
(more often than not, negatively) people they do not, and never will know. It's such unflattering behaviour and what's really sad is that a good many of them are old enough to know better, or so one would have thought.
There are those who need to do themselves a favour and move on, in that they need to accept that Diana
(even in death) will inevitably play an important role in the life of her children, and rightly so. If they don't like that she is still mentioned occasionally well that's just tough luck.
And Charles and Camilla are quite clearly happy together and there are those who need to let go of baggage they seem to have willingly acquired in deffense of a woman no longer with us. Diana's legacy is not in need of being deffended by people she never knew.
As for the the Duchess, she seems a very charming woman and Charles, though a bit of an eccentric odd ball at times, really seems to mean well and they are deserving of happiness just as Diana would have deserved to have found someone who she could have shared the rest of her life with had her life not been cut ever so short.
No one can
(or should try to) inhibit the memory of their
(William and Henry's) mother and if they want to talk of her, or include her in whatever way they feel appropriate during important milestones in their respective lives then no one, and I do mean
no one, has the right to deny them that. And imo, where mention of Diana is likely to occur, it would be pathetically selfish of someone to put their feelings before that of her children.
And personally, I'd be inclined to assume that if there was anyone who would be supportive and undertanding of this, then it would probably be Camilla who herself being a mother of two, understands the lifelong influence and importance of that very relationship.