Fantastic post Daria.
I think some people are so eager to see Kate work that they forget she and William are newlyweds who got married in front of 2 billion people. Their marriage is under immense scrutiny. They try their best to protect their relationship by limiting PDAs and not doing interviews. But let's face it, they're huge right now. Yes, HM is HM. She can not be overshadowed but you can bet your bottom dollar, these two can come close. The interest in them is world wide not just in the UK. Media is hungry for any news/tidbit about them.
Since they got married, the pressure is on them to produce an heir. First year of marriage is the best but also, the most difficult IMO. You're basically trying to get used to living with each other 24/7 and its even harder when you have people analyzing your every smile, look and expression. I know they were living together but this is different. They're in their honeymoon period right now and I am sure are affectionate with each other a lot. But every time they step out in public they have to make a conscious effort to not touch each other, hold hands etc. Plus, William will be posted at Falklands next year for 2 months. They'll be apart during that time. Spending first two yrs in Angelsey away from the media pressures will solidify their marriage. I always got the feeling from that they have their priorities straight. They'll do their duty but not at the cost of their marriage/family. We can not compare their relationship to regular people. The amount of pressures on them are ridiculous.
Kate is new to all this. Yes, she used to attend some events with William but they were dating at that time. I don't think RF would have given her any information about the charities William supported before engagement. Because she seemed so confident on this tour, people are eager for her to take on her own charity engagements. But Arthur Edwards was on one of the shows here and he mentioned that she looks confident but she is really nervous on the inside. She's just good at covering it up. Kate also told a reporter in Canada that the tour is overwhelming her. There is no question she was outstanding but she needs to take a breather and sort out which causes she wants to support. She is on the right path. I think its good that William is making sure she doesn't feel pressured. I like that he's giving her time to learn and figure out what causes she wants to back. She will take on her own engagements once she/William feels ready. They will have to do charity work rest of their lives and live their life in the public eye. I don't see anything wrong with them wanting some quality time together.