Originally Posted by teense
" I wonder if a lot of these princes wanted to play the fairytale prince and "rescue" them. I honestly believe that it will bite them in the rear at some point." Quote from Tzu An
Thank you for commenting on my post Tzu An! I really think there's a Syndrome going around the princes of Europe where they try to get attention by rescuing the "Damsel in Distress"(women with heavy issues..) Prince Rainier probably recognized the symptoms when he met Nicole....
I recently saw a picture of Mette shoving Haakon while entering a plane (She was mad when she saw a journalist on the plane and took it out on her husband)..While he kept smiling, I wondered--If she can do that in public, what is she like in private? The wedding picture of the couple alongside the drug dealer's son was so sweet to see --but they have a long road ahead....
I think Prince Albert could have been swept away by this ongoing European Princely trend--he could be looking for a women who is opposite his Mother (Like Nicole appeared to be...) Prince Albert's Mother had lived independently from her family and had established a career--and she certainly didn't need any man to rescue her....
First of all I don't think that PA has a rescuing syndrom (though I think if he ever gets married his wife mightprove to suffer from it
). He is simply attracted to women who play their primary attributes (using push up bras, micro minis and tight clothes that make them look like overstuffed sausages), like possibly the majority of men. I have yet to meet a man who does not have his eyes popping out when one of those creatures passes by.
To compare Princess Grace, Queen Sonja and Queen Silvia (all of them successful Cinderellas) with the present new princesses I think is comparing apples to pears. They are from a different time with different values. And it wasn't easy on them either, but they found there way.
Especially MC is very different then the other countries. When PG arrived, people were very sceptical about her as well, but on the other hand they never really had anyone who fullfilled the role of a princess. Rainiers mum was only admitted as a grown person in the family and before that, people didn't really pay that much attention to the private lives of the ruling prince. They married in private and had their love affairs in private and not a lot ever left the premisses.
I remember reading that PG left MC for the states, all set to return home, even though in the fifties and in her generation and faith a divorce was a much bigger scandal then nowadays. Rainier commented on the first years of PG in MC in an interview pretty laconic : "well you can't expect a butler who has been with the family for over 20 years and been doing his job in a certain way to suddenly change and arrange the flowers differently. That all takes time.
So basically when Rainier went after her to get her back, he persuaded her to give it another try and accept that changes would have to take a bit longer. Also when her kids were almost grown up, she practically lived in Paris rather then in MC until she found herself a new field of fullfillment. (this phase - aging and the kids being independent and leaving the nest- often causes a strain in the relationship as well, though officially other reasons where given for her absence). Who knows what would have happened, if she would have lived longer and seen her beauty fade away ( I heard that sh did have issues that way). Caroline (and I think also the other kids mentioned it) said once about her mother, that she remembers her always looking immaculate and when the kids came up to hug and cuddle her she would say, please darling watch out and don't touch my hair. I would never be worried about my hair when it comes to my kids. Especially when it happens in the private rooms of the nursery. I know it was meant as a complement, but I thought it was dreadful to have such a memory of a mother.
Also one should not forget that women, who die early are much more beautyful, much nicer etc. after their death then in real life (there are books about this phenomenon in society i.e. over her dead body by Elizabeth Bronfen): look at Marilyn Monroe, Sissi, Princess Grace or Diana. I remember as I lived in England, that people were pretty much fed up with Dianas whining in front of cameras and wished her to just go away. Only after her pretty ordinary road accident, people started to construct a myth around her and her death. (same thing happened with Grace) She was after seperating and divorcing PC definetely not the princess of the hearts that she is made out to be now. Someone once said that a beautiful woman does nothing better than dying young or as de Quincey puts it: I acknowledge that you (women) can do one thing as well as the best of us men - a greater thing than even Milton is known to have done, or Michael Angelo: you can die grandly, and as goddesses would die, were goddesses mortal.
The young princes who married commoners, where probably bored by what they got to meet in their own circles. A bit of adventurism might play a role as well. Whether it is going to work, only time will tell. It depends on how determined the couples are to make things work. Also those princes do not know what normal is. they might excuse a certain behaviour and put it down to their loved ones upbringing and the difficulties they encounter in adapting, when men of the same background would recommend them to a psychiatrist. ANd they will put up with a lot of things, that others probably would not and they will split up when they can't bear it any longer. (not that it is entirely the womens fault - it takes two to tango
) And then those women can all blame it on the archaic system of monarchy etc etc so that they don't have to look at their own faults. And it is so comforting to play the victim in public. They are all so hard done by. A woman with brains and open eyes will be aware of the problems she will be facing. And not just with the public and papparazzi. I think that is sth you can deal with and handle. It is the difference of upbringing, of values etc., things that go far deeper then the superficial outside world that causes most problems and make marrying a prince such a risky business.
I think that all parties involved have their issues, it is just a matter of dealing with them and being aware of them. ANd who ever is attempting a relation with PA should be aware that he is attracted to oversexed women (and that's what he used NC for and she let him use her that way and got angry when he dumped her) and probably always will be. So since men his age don't usually change their habbits, he will either marry one of those or he will just pick a classy one that interests him for a while and then start philandering about. And then it is a question, whether what they have is strong enough to last or whether she will call it a day.