Originally Posted by susan alicia
From B.T.'s article
Requirements of a princess from Catarina Hurtig's book:
- Fertile – she must be able to have children
- Be a good mother
- Interested in fashion and beauty
- Able to keep a tight reign on her temperament and always appear in control
- Sense of social occasion and like to meet people
- Be discreet and able to keep confidences
- Be able to talk without being imprudent
- Kind and obliging, but at the same keep a certain distance. BUT without appearing cold and arrogant
- Show an interest towards the outside world
- Able to talk to all kinds of people
- Appear warm, soft and accessible
- Have a good relationship with her mother-in-law, the Queen
- No skeletons in the cupboard, such as embarrassing episodes from her youth
- No embarrassing family relations, who make scandals or talk out of place to the press
These are great, but I don't think that being a princess should be like a career you follows. I think that if there isn't in YOU to be a princess, you'll never be, even if you try hard to do it...and beware; I'm not speaking of these who were BORN princess. You all must know by now, that I'm a traditionalist, but I must be frank on this: some BORN princess are not real princess and they behaved in a way not acceptable for a princess (it's the same for a prince, this is not related to genders); some commoners were natural princess, even if they weren't born in a nobility family. Is that simple. I can't explain exactly why...
I do not say which princess with blue blood in her veines are not princess by their behaviour, for this is not fair. But I'll mention some "commoners" who weremore worth in their new position than "real princess". They are just a few, but their example could be certainly followed.
Princess Grace of Monaco (born Grace Kelly) was one of them. Some people likes to throw dirt into her life before her marriage to Rainier of Monaco, but she was a LADY. Who can deny it? People, in Monaco and all around the world, loves this woman who makes her little new country widely known in the whole world. She was fertile, good mother, interested in fashion, she always appeared having control over her temperament, likes to meet people, etc, etc...Well...Resuming: chapeau to this woman who after a while could change herself into a real Princess, as Cinderella did.
Shabanu Farah of Iran (born Farah Diba): This commoner, daughter of a militar father, was a perfect lady. An Empress. Nobody could accuse her to try to bring "bourgeois points of view" to the Iran court. And she was fully interested in her countries political and social issues. Everybody knows that without her, White Revolution would not have been the same. Women of Iran has a lot of things to be grateful to this woman, who much more than Princess Fawzia of Egypt and Queen Soraya was interested in their lifes and the future of the country.
Empress Michiko (born Michiko Shoda): Another great lady who knows what an Empress must do, and is not here and there complaining about her lost freedom and such. I admire her a lot.
Queen Alia of Jordan: nor words needed to depict this lady of the ladies. Her people is still crying for her absurd , too early death.
I don't remember more names, but sure they are..I must think a little and I know that some others will come out...I'm pretty wasted today. Too much work!
Well. The fact is that I think that a commoner can become a Princess (and vice-versa!
), but it's not a thing you'll see very often.