This is a view with which I agree. It's within her control to specify how she's presented to the public in her commercial endeavors and talk show appearances. If she would drop the duchess connection and drop all comments about the royal family other than her daughters she'd earn a respect from me which has never existed.
What you mean if Sarah just disappeared off the face of the earth and you never heard from her again then you'd respect her? LOL, just joking but that's how you sounded.
Well I don't think that Sarah really thinks too hard to earn either of our respect and I personally would have less respect for her if she tried to please others so I think it best that she just do what is best for herself. I don't think its realistic or advisable for Sarah to drop all comments about the Royal Family but she can avoid tittletattle about the royals.
It would be nice to think that she has developed a healthy self-esteem but I'm not so confident that is the case. Her pre-Andrew life with Paddy McNally didn't seem one in which she exhibited self-confidence or independence so I don't think her royal experience was the start of her problems, though she may have thought they were going to be solved by it. From the beginning I thought her clowning and making googly-eyes was a sham and cover-up for her insecurity and that her breeziness was somewhat forced. Like Diana the seeds of her "failure" were there before marriage and to blame only the royal family is unfair and possibly unreasonable.
I didn't see anything forced or insecure about Sarah's early behavior and from what I read of the impression she gave to others, I don't remember anyone saying that she seemed insecure even the people who knew her when she was with Paddy McNally. Before they were married, Diana had actually looked up to Sarah as the more confident one. She seemed brash but comfortable in her brashness and gave the impression that she knew what she wanted and went out for it. And unlike Diana, I didn't see her blame the royal family for the failure in her marriage. From what I remember, Sarah said that she simply wasn't cut out to be royal.
In fact Sarah's story reminds me a little of Pamela Harriman's. Pamela was a daughter of the country aristocracy who as long as she was in the country had an amazing self-confidence and pluckiness, but when her mother brought her to London, she was a flop on the debutante circle and in society because she was considered a little too ungainly looking and acting and a little uncouth and she ended up marrying Randolph Churchill who although he was the son of Winston Churchill was considered to be somewhat of a loser. Pamela had an amazing cofidence as long as she was in her element, the country but as soon as she got to society, her insecurities showed and she wasted her time and energy trying to get someone else's approval.
Sarah reminds me like that.
Many have expressed their admiration for her as a "strong woman" "working tirelessly to clear her debts" (cleared long ago, by the way) "fighting for her independence", while it seems to me that as long as she trades on her royal connection weakness and dependence are the traits being revealed.
No I think at the beginning she was just being realistic. Being realistic about what your options are does not equal being weak. The royal connections were her biggest sellable asset and she had to get out of debt. She has more options now.
I know that the argument can be made that it isn't she doing this but others who continue to highlight the connection. If she truly wanted to separate herslef and show strength and independence she could stop acquiescing.
Well I think she needs to make it on her own but I think dropping all mention of the Royal family would mean she would simply stop acquiesing to one mob (the mob that wants to use her connections) and she'd start acquiescing to another mob who simply wants to forget she ever existed. She needs to break the ties but I don't think that building her self-esteem will happen if Sarah lets herself disappear to make some people happy. Abasing yourself to avoid annoying others is hardly the route to a healthy self-esteem.
And, ysbel, I loved your phrase "the Royal Experience has been a negative experience for Sarah rather than a positive experience" for it immediately reversed itself in my mind to "the Sarah Experience has been a negative experience for the Royals rather than a positive experience"
Well I admit I prefer my quote better than yours, Janet. I don't think Sarah harmed the royal family much. I remember after the separation when an American reporter asked a British royalty expert whether the Sarah debacle had hurt the monarchy. The expert say, No because no one considers Sarah a royal anymore so whatever happens to her can't touch us. I think that was a fair statement. Of course Andrew suffered but Andrew is not the entire royal family. I think the royal family can survive Sarah even despite Andrew's pain.