the Romanovs and French royals were in a cage, with the Romanovs facing REAL assassination attempts, but they still enjoyed their role and did their duties and lived up to them. Destiny and life isn't fair and never has been; instead of looking at what you don't have, they should look at what they DO have. They obviously aren't realizing that. They constantly want more and mor and mor and more out of their people and family and go figure, ask for a bit more on the side.
All the time, it's the old fashioned "My life isn't my own, WAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!" complaint that is supposed to let them marry women that US politicains wouldn't dream of bringing home to mother/father, they jet set more than most entertainers even, and their wives keep messing up their role and constantly look inappropriate for their role and the occasions.
It's a total infection; I mean, movies propagandize how evil it would be to marry another royal, the only happiness that exists is shirking your duty, humiliating your (royal) intended, and that it's cute to make a fool of yourself at an age when you should be past childish antics. It's tiring seeing young royal adults make a public committment and then end up shirking it, humiliating someone literally in the eyes of the world, seeing them act up, bring trouble, and hearing the usual "we don't belong to ourselves" and seeing them get away with all sorts of things.
It's a complete lack of respecting boundaries and a lack of simply letting themselves be happy. They should be happy with their life and not push themselves to change the world. Duty is the price of rewards and it's not like the duties themselves are too onerous.
They are by birth in a cage, but a very comfortable one and they also have it all going for them at birth to launch themselves to do great things. The Japanese royals have their own interests and pursuits and it's not like they have it easy. If for one, FOR ONCE royals would take a look at all they have, they would likely realize and appreciate all they had.
It's always an annoying irony that so many of these commoner women go for the prince, do whatever it takes to get the ring and then the wedding, and then start moaning and groaning and then withering before our very eyes because they can't stand the protocol, staying by their husband, walking two steps behind, being 'reduced' to being ornamental, and being 'forced' to pop out babies and 'breed' heirs and spend time at 'stuffy' banquets and 'boring' receptions, and standing at attention at 'long' parades and doing constant 'tours,' as if for some sick reason, they didn't have any choice in the matter. They go after the ring, enjoy the perks, but at the same time, balk at paying the small price of serving the public and making an effort to appreciate the institution that they've married into. I mean, these days you can find out exactly what to expect if you marry in.
Complaining about being royalty seems to come from the West more than the East. The Romanovs revelled in being royalty, as their lifestyle showed and until Alexandra, each and every single Tsarina who was Consort adored their role and partied and socialized and were happily the leaders of fashionable Court society. Then other Eastern royals loved every bit of their status and in some aspects literally killed each other to get to the role of Sovereign. You don't see the Saudis complaining about being royalty, they love it and make no bones about enjoying themselves. I think the reason that there has been success is because the royals go out and enjoy their role and life as royalty. The problems keep popping up once the royals for some reason look at their opportunity as a burden, rather than something to really enjoy.
Fergie, for all of her faults, clearly enjoyed being royalty and enjoyed the gowns, jewels, and the balls.
I cannot feel sorry for people who cannot see the debit in their life and see how much more they have than what they really sacrifice. Serving the nation from the perch of such security is a huge privilege. They don't have to run for reelection, they don't have to really do anything too strenuous, and they don't have to worry about bills. There is a bit of sympathy for born royals, but as the Romanovs have shown, there's a lot of fun in being royalty if you know how to adjust and make things work in your favor and even enjoy public duties and life.